{"id":29,"date":"2015-07-15T14:53:16","date_gmt":"2015-07-15T14:53:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/?p=29"},"modified":"2015-07-15T18:06:40","modified_gmt":"2015-07-15T18:06:40","slug":"meeting-the-needs-of-your-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/2015\/07\/15\/meeting-the-needs-of-your-child\/","title":{"rendered":"Meeting the needs of your child"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"synved-social-container synved-social-container-share\"><a class=\"synved-social-button synved-social-button-share synved-social-size-48 synved-social-resolution-single synved-social-provider-facebook nolightbox\" data-provider=\"facebook\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\" title=\"Share on Facebook\" 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href=\"mailto:?subject=Meeting%20the%20needs%20of%20your%20child&#038;body=Hey%20check%20this%20out:%20http%3A%2F%2Fhopeatwork.co.za%2Fblog\" style=\"font-size: 0px;width:48px;height:48px;margin:0;margin-bottom:5px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"mail\" title=\"Share by email\" class=\"synved-share-image synved-social-image synved-social-image-share\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" style=\"display: inline;width:48px;height:48px;margin: 0;padding: 0;border: none;box-shadow: none\" src=\"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/social-media-feather\/synved-social\/image\/social\/regular\/96x96\/mail.png\" \/><\/a><\/span><p>Someone once said that anyone can have a child and call themselves \u201ca parent\u201d, but a real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.\u00a0 When asked about the needs of their child and how difficult it is to meet those needs, many may have a different perspective or opinion and some may even say it\u2019s a walk in the park.\u00a0 After all,\u00a0 it\u2019s easy to identify your child\u2019s physical needs:\u00a0 nutritious food, warm clothes when it\u2019s cold and making sure that your child goes to bed at a reasonable hour\u2026 just to name a few.<\/p>\n<p>But what about your child\u2019s emotional needs and why is it important to know what it is?<\/p>\n<p>All human needs are inter-related and inter-dependant.\u00a0 For example, your child may fight sleep for fear that you may leave home.\u00a0 So meeting your child\u2019s emotional needs are equally important to his development as meeting his physical needs. Here\u2019s why:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>To develop his ability to form healthy emotional relationships throughout his life<\/li>\n<li>To know how to handle stress and trauma<\/li>\n<li>To develop a strong sense of competency and self-worth<\/li>\n<li>To develop the ability to effectively manage impulses and emotions<\/li>\n<li>To develop empathy, compassion and conscience for others<\/li>\n<li>And to develop a core belief system<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Growing up is difficult.\u00a0 Learning to manage feelings, make sense of a complex adult world and learning to find one\u2019s own identity is not an easy task!\u00a0 And no matter how much parents try to protect their child from frightening situations, however reasonable and loving they may be or however child-centred a school they choose for their child, growing up is filled with difficulties.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>\u201cWe\u2019ve tried everything\u201d\u2026 \u201cWe treat them all alike\u201d\u2026 \u201cWe\u2019ve given the child everything he wants\u201d.\u00a0 These three remarks are frequently heard when parents ask for help with a difficult child.\u00a0 The first suggests inconsistent handling, with swings between strict control and weak indulgence\u2026 The second overlooks the fact that siblings are not \u2018all alike\u2019 but vary in age and personality \u2013 and therefore in their individual needs\u2026 The third remark suggests that the parents have tried to compensate in irrelevant, extravagant material ways for their difficulty in meeting their child\u2019s emotional needs.\u00a0 (Berry, 1972)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Failure to meet children\u2019s needs<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>If one of the basic needs remains unmet (or inadequately met), it will have an influence on all the aspects of your child\u2019s development.\u00a0 Emotional and behavioral disturbances are a good sign that you need to seek help.<\/p>\n<p>Be sure not to miss the next few posts where we deal with the four different basic needs.<\/p>\n<p>Resources:<\/p>\n<p>FACT Manual:\u00a0 Socio-emotional Assessment of children.\u00a0 Compiled by Louise Aucamp<\/p>\n<p>O\u2019Conner, K.J.\u00a0 2013.\u00a0 Play Therapy.\u00a0 Treatment Planning and Interventions.\u00a0 The Ecosystemic Model and Workbook.\u00a0 Second Edition.\u00a0 Elsevier.\u00a0 Oxford.<\/p>\n<p>Pringle, M.K.\u00a0 1975.\u00a0 The Needs of Children.\u00a0 Routledge, Oxon.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Someone once said that anyone can have a child and call themselves \u201ca parent\u201d, but a real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.\u00a0 When asked about the needs of their child and how difficult it is to meet those needs, many may have a different perspective or [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":22,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-29","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-childhood-development","8":"category-parenting","9":"czr-hentry"},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/07\/quotes-children-play-3.png","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":37,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29\/revisions\/37"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/hopeatwork.co.za\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}